So, I feel like it's time to talk about this because I'm happier than I've ever been and I really just want to share this story to help any of you out who are going through the same or a very similar situation.
Anyway 2 months ago myself and my girlfriend at the time broke up. Her reasoning behind it was because she got "bored" and that the day to day routine of our relationship had got too "samey". At the time I really could not comprehend this. She had been there for me for 5 and a half years of my life and had been my girlfriend for 4 and a half. I really could not imagine my life without her.
The immediate time after it was hell. I never imagined how hard it would actually be to have someone who meant everything to you, thought they were your soul mate and you would be together forever (cliché I know) to be taken away in a flash. To talking to someone all the time to no contact whatsoever.
I really do have my friends and family to thank for getting me through it because I was in a very dark place and they dragged me out of it. I kept plodding along with life. I made sure I kept busy. I have three jobs so I think that helped!!! Anyway so after the 3 weeks were up for my Easter break I went back to Uni. It was really the change and breath of fresh air I needed. Obviously it was a familiar place by now after being there for 6 months but it was different from home which brought back all the memories of us as a couple.
Honestly if you're going through something like this make that drastic decision to go travelling or whatever. Do something crazy! What I did wasn't crazy I just got through it and you can too!
Anyway so now 2 months down the line I really couldn't be happier. I've met the most incredible girl ever who really knows how to show someone she really cares which I haven't ever experienced before. And also having your friends at Uni tell you they prefer her to you ex is always nice to hear because as they say "the grass is always greener on the other side".
I contacted my ex about 2 weeks ago because I actually needed her knowledge on a topic that many people don't know about and I knew she would help me. After her helping me I said thank you and she turned it into yet another argument. One revolving around the fact we can't "just be friends". I really don't know if it is just me or anyone else thinks you can't just be friends who shattered your heart...maybe I'm crazy. So I sent her a letter about my reasoning behind why we couldn't be friends. I don't feel like I need OR want her in my life anymore. I'm so grateful for everything that we had, everything that we were and what she did for me however it was simply just a chapter in my book that I need to close and start the new one.
I've since noticed more about myself. My anxiety for one has been the biggest change in me. Some of it is down to going to University however I have also lost a lot of worry and self doubt since we split. I find myself less tired than I used to be (people with anxiety will know how tired it can make you) and also more care-free and I really think that's the way to live.
I'm at such a great stage in my life that I actually like who I am at the moment and now it's just the time I need to figure out what to do with my life and how to fulfil my dreams even more.
***Cringe ending***....but Lizzie if you ever happen to read this you're the most incredible girl I've ever met and I think things happened fast with our relationship because it was meant to be...you really were the light in the darkness and I love you so much :)
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