The Benefits of Coming Out!

Coming out can help to lift a huge weight off your shoulders as you don't have to feel like you have to be someone you're not anymore and you can truly be yourself for the first time in your life!

• Coming is a statement of self-acceptance and saying to the world that you think it’s okay for you - and anyone - to be gay. It’s an assertive thing to do, a confidence boost, and can kick-start a new chapter of positive changes in your life.
• Coming out can bring you closer to your friends and family. Secrets create barriers that keep people apart. Once the truth is out a gay person often becomes more relaxed and open. They can be themselves and allow their friends and family to get to know them much better. Many people report that friendships and family bonds become stronger once the secrecy of being in the closet is lifted.
• It’s easier to meet other gay people if you are out. Pretending to be straight is a huge obstacle to finding gay friends or a partner. An out gay person is more visible and accessible to other gay people and easier to get to know. An out gay person is more likely to go to a gay venue, join a gay social group or go on a date, making it much easier to meet people.
• You may find that coming out gives other gay friends, colleagues and acquaintances the courage to do the same. You might be surprised at how many other gay people seem to appear once you get the ball rolling. I remember starting a new job a few years ago. There was a man in the office who I had a feeling was gay. When he saw how people responded positively to the news of my sexuality, he came out too and seemed much happier and more relaxed in the office. He'd been there for many years before I arrived, sidestepping and avoiding the topic of his personal life.
• Many people feel happier, calmer, more confident and more positive about the future after coming out. Being in the closet can be a lonely, anxious and unhappy place. Denying your feelings, lying to loved ones and putting on an act to please others is unhealthy and can be costly in terms of your emotional well-being. I very much believe that the only way to have a chance at real happiness is to have the courage to be yourself.

Coming Out

Coming out can be an incredibly scary and daunting thing to young people. 
Finding out that you're gay is only the first step and I found this very hard just like many other people as you go through many confused emotions that you're too young to understand or just too complicated for you to comprehend. 
Maybe you knew from a very young age that there wasn't something quite right..
Maybe, like me you just found someone that you liked and wasn't sure if it was just a really close friendship, you were just very confused with your emotions or you were actually 'different' from everyone else. 

First things first, You're no different from anyone else! you're still your normal everyday self. Just because heterosexuality is deemed as normal in our society doesn't mean that you're not just because everyone is narrow minded and can't understand why people have different sexualities and can't be bothered to find out to teach themselves to make them accept us. That's their loss not ours!

Dealing with parents tends to be the toughest part of coming out. These two special people are unique in that they created and raised you and are fully invested in your well-being. You are a part of them and a reflection of their values. Your development into a healthy and happy adult is largely down to their parenting skills. If a parent holds negative views on homosexuality they might think that having a gay child is a failing on their part. They might think they did something wrong that made their son or daughter turn out 'wrong'. But being gay has nothing to do with good or bad parenting.

Good parents want their child to be safe and happy. They often have fixed ideas about what form that happiness will take in adult life, typically defined by heterosexual marriage and children. There's nothing wrong with these things of course but the traditional expectations of parents can be a terrible burden for a gay child. Most parents assume their offspring is going to be straight, but rational and open-minded mums and dads understand that romantic love and happiness aren't defined by the gender mix of a couple, nor are those things exclusive to heterosexual people. Some parents take longer to reach this conclusion. You can help your parents to get there by making good and healthy choices in life and in your choice of partner. Be patient and calm when they ask questions or express misconceptions that may be offensive to you. Your parents are being presented with concepts they may never have considered before. It's a lot to take in.

The most important thing; To me the most important thing when thinking about coming out is to make sure you're ready. Your parents and others that you have to come out too may have a lot of questions and you'll have to be able to answer these to help them understand and come to terms with your sexuality. Usually there comes a time where the secrecy of being gay can feel like it's eating you up inside. If this is the case I think it's time! Be brave and make that leap of faith!! 

New YouTube Channel!

Okay so about 2 months ago I decided to go ahead and create my own YouTube channel. This was a crazy ass idea and to start off with I couldn't think of any videos to post that would be interesting so my channel just sat alone with no videos for over a month.
About a week ago I decided to get the ball rolling so to speak. Maybe I should say get the camera filming...Anyway I now have 2 videos on my YouTube channel and I'm planning to upload at least once a week if not more.
My channel will include videos ranging from Hair Tutorials, Monthly Favourites, Vlogs, Things on my mind, Make up Tutorials and many more that viewers would like to see.
I have made the YouTube mainly to help others. I have had a very troubled childhood and gone through many things as a young girl and also a teenager/young adult and would just love to brighten people's days and reach out to people to help them from my past experiences.

CHECK IT OUT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbj9gtycsmIAeojFeMOCFPg

Thanks for reading my blog yet again xx